Can Caring About Twitter Unfollows kill Your Profits?
by J.P. Micek · Filed Under: Personal Branding · Persuasive Selling Platform · Tribal Seduction Strategies · twitter
Yesterday @TerryBean asked a question via twitter that many entrepreneurs worry themselves sick over (and thereby hamstring their success), not just on Twitter, but on many Social and New Media Marketing channels.
Terry asked; “Do you worry about losing followers? If so do you think you lose them from not tweeting enough or tweeting too much?”
My multi-Tweet reply addressed a core issue WAY more important than too few or too many updates. I answered Terry:
- Msg 1 “If your not strong enough to turn some people off, you’ll NEVER be strong enough to attract a Tribe of true Loyals (cont)”
- Msg 2 “You need to establish your Persuasive Selling Platform – then stand boldly on it. Too many/few Tweets is least of concerns.
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My first statement there got picked up and used by Ken Burbary in a post yesterday discussing unfollow tools and their impact: “Twitter: Unfollow me, it’s not personal.” Ken correctly touches on the fact that Twitter has a “culture.” But that point has much larger ramifications to the way you do business. In fact; emotions and interactions tangled up in “culture” is the entire basis for Tribal Marketing.
Unfollows will never hurt you, but beating yourself with sticks will break your business bones
“Twitter culture” is no different than any other human interaction, online in New Media or off-line face-to-face. People with jobs dabbling in Social and New Media to gain friends and “converse” can afford to get sucked into a never-ending downward spiral of narcissistic analysis.
But for entrepreneurs, marketers and business owners; analysis of this type without a benchmark or platform against which to judge reactions creates a self-imposed profit killing death sentence.
Contrary to what you’ve heard? Not surprising when most Social Media “experts are corporate refugees with a worker mindset, brainwashed to “get along” at all costs.
Here’s the danger in that “careful not to offend anyone” approach…
If business people begin altering their behavior, words and statements to avoid “unfollow sting”, the ramifications are no different than trying to fit into a high-school clique. Even if the group accepts you, you will always be the outsider… the poser. NOT a good position for an entrepreneur who is (or should be) looking to be seen as a knowledgeable leader.
To attract and retain a Tribe of raving fans (Loyals) means taking strong positions. The stronger your positions, the stronger the bond between you and your Tribe… and among the Tribe members themselves. It’s human nature that the mundane and the luke-warm are either ignored or spit out.
Only in politics every two years do “moderates” get any attention. And when we look at their actual numbers (average only 2% of voters via Battleground Poll for the last 10 years) — we see the fact that the vast majority of people DO have opinions. They just may not have the kahonas to state those thoughts.
The entrepreneurs and business people who take strong stands in their niche or industry, who make bold pronouncements for the benefit of their Tribe — they will get the respect, loyalty and patronage that people are waiting to shower on a true leader.
The question is not “too many or too few Tweets.” It is “do you know your Tribe?”
YOUR Tribe, YOUR Loyals — they are ALL that matter!
If you don’t know your Persuasive Selling Platform well enough to know what may have turned someone off, (and to know that, in many cases that unfollow is a good thing) — then any “tool” like Qwitter http://useqwitter.com/ that lets you know what words triggered an unfollow will only serve to further shake your confidence and throw you off track.
If you have your Loyals Profiles and Tribal Factor firmly established as two of the four foundation stones of your Persuasive Selling Platform, the ability to keep your focus allows you to be in total control of your emotions.
That control for you can mean ignoring, or even celebrating unfollows as you continue on a profitable path of New Media Marketing. But YOU are in control… not some tool or technology.
What’s your take?
- How do unfollows on Twitter or friend drop-offs on FaceBook or MySpace impact you?
- Do you just ignore those unfollows, or do you revel in the fact they’ve occurred?
- How do you know when an unfollow is a good thing vs. a “learning opportunity”?
Leave your thoughts in some graffiti down in the comment area below.
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| John-Paul Micek is a co-founder of the entreprenuerial development company RPM Success Group® Inc. He and his partner Deborah Micek are authors of the hit book Secrets Of Online Persuasion, and creators of the BLOG i360™ New Media Marketing Hub Site Software. | |















Having unfollows comes with having friends on networks. Not everyone is always going to like what you say all the time; it’s just a fact of life. These networks are no different only you can TELL when someone isn’t interested anymore. In real life someone could of “Unfollowed you” years ago but you still see them all the time…
OMG! JP; what a FANTASTIC post…you know I’m trying to find my way through the pack and have found myself caught up in that “I want EVERYONE to like me”…now my personality is a optimistic, positive one and that’s truly who I am and what I want to share with people, but I admit there are times when I don’t comment or don’t share my view because I’m afraid of exactly what you talked about; not being apart of the “clique”..thank you so much for grabbing me and giving me a good shake!
All the best!
Danielle
hi, I am fairly new to twitter, 2 months now, but not new to the IDEA of social networking. Honestly, my first UNfollow felt like my first ezine subscriber who unsubscribed, like a personal slap against ME. Realistically, I realized that with twitter, Face book, etc. – those who relate to ME or are interested in my views, help, support, problems, etc. are a good personal and business FIT and those I cannot connect with just take up space in my twitter feed or other social networking reading surface and I do not want to do the same for anyone who is not genuinely interested IN connecting with me or hearing what I have to say to what they may be saying.
I was the leader of the out crowd in high school, never really aspired to be popular and follow everyone that was considered “cool” and at 54, am not about to start now. I have over 1,000 followers who appear to want to interact with me or at least put up with me and those who leave were not going to be a personal or business plus for me anyway nor I for them.
just MHO
jantallent on twitter and FB
Hi, I am glad to learn this information! I am new to Twitter, and am finding myself wishing that there were an “instruction” page…I do not even know how to find people yet, much less worry about losing them! Any suggestions are welcome!
Let me see, right now I’m preparing to write a Blog Post for my Blog i360 site
Linda
Danielle ~ Great!! let go of the fear!
You seem to know your persona. You just need to get your Personal Brand Declaration down (another foundation stone of your Persuasive Selling Platform. Once you have that set and are comfortable with it you’ll be much more confident in speaking your mind…. and still profiting too.
Linda ~ For more strategies and how-to tips check out TwitterHandbook.com.
I remember leaving a bar years back with a handful of friends, one of whom I had met that evening. I made some snarky comment and this dude laughed like it was the funniest thing he had ever heard. He said something to the effect of “you just say what you want to say, don’t you?” I replied, “of course I do. My humor is for my benefit, if anyone else finds it funny, all the better”.
I would like to think I have matured a little in the past 10 years, and I am hoping for very little. I still say 98% of what I think without giving it much thought. If people agree, great. If not, great. I don’t worry about it because ultimately, it’s not about me in that scenario…it’s about them.
People are people and they will do what they choose. If people unfollow on Twitter, disconnect on Linkedin or drop our friendship on facebook, it’s almost always about them. Interestingly, it’s the same reason they followed me, asked me to link or wanted to be my friend in the first place.
I don’t use qwitter or twitterless or any other such thing because there is very little I can glean from the fact they left. I will continue to state my case and people will either agree or disagree. It’s when I get sick of me that I have a problem (and that happens to from time to time).
Thanks for the thoughtful post JP. I am glad to see that you saw Ken Burbary’s too. I thought his had a lot of insight as well. I like how you both looked at the same issue with a different perspective.
Terry Bean
http://www.networkedinc.com
@terrybean
Terry ~ nice story to highlight the disease most people (and many entrepreneurs) suffer from. I whole-heartily agree that as a business owner you MUST lay out the vision, say what needs to be said, and motivate your team with clarity on the course of action necessary to achieve it.
When it comes to marketing however, there is a little twist on that.
You as the owner of the business are also selling and marketing personally. In that context there is adaptation that is required for success.
In the Tribal Seduction Marketing-for-Life course, the Persuasive Selling Platform (PSP) creates this stage on which you stand to attract a maximum number of Loyals into your Tribe — while still remaining true to yourself.
The PSP is not a “mask” as many put on in sales and marketing, temporarily becoming something they are not only to live miserable lives while struggling to eek out a living. It is a “framing” and positioning of your strongest attributes for optimized persuasive impact.
nice post Dudes
I was listening to gene ladrum audio today and he kept talking abnormal passion, abnormal biz rules, abnormal _________ (fill in the blank) creates abnormal success.
He was saying in a nut shell to break the rules, b/c every1 always says, “follow the rules”, “just follow the policy”, etc.
I don’t even know how to check who unfollowed me on twiter or facebook, and if they don’t follow me, I guess it’s like my newsletter – they prob. were not interested anyway.
ironically, I told my mastermind group yesterday I don’t measure or test, and possibly to a fault.
But, I don’t get caught worrying about who likes what or why.
Has it hurt me? I’d saying since getting hooked up w/u guys and vid blogging daily as you reccomended and just being ME, my success has doubled for sure and my fans are REALLY into what I do – it was NEVER like that before!
Thanks JP and Deb
–Z–
Hey JP
Let me see… have I ever unfollowed somebody… the answer of course…. Yes! So it’s only natural people would quit following me.
I never worry about it and my followers keep increasing. If I ever notice a sudden large drop in unfollows, then I might become concerned and would investigate the reason why.
Ann Rusnak
“The Time Diva”
Hi JP,
The great thing about Twitter is that people get to chose who shares their space and if someone honors me by following me, I do not take that for granted.
Why someone unfollows me is not an issue with me, and though I would never intentionally say something to hurt someone’s feelings or make them angry, I’m not going to change the way I tweet just to please others.
In the grand scheme of things, I think our “tribe” is the best testament to how we’re using Twitter. If you’re getting followers and keeping them, you must be doing something right. If you’re getting them and then losing them shortly after, well…
Sharon McPherson
@SharonMcP
It doesn’t bother me , it used to I must admit but not anymore
I have learned that on places like this esp on Myspace there are people adding you for all different reasons, mainly to promote there business without getting to know you
Zach ~ It is an honor working with you. Thrilled to hear how our coaching has already doubled your business. I know BLOG i360 has given you a huge ROI too. You are an EXCELLENT client because you take action on what you learn. Let’s double your business again in the next 3-months!
Sharon ~ “If you’re getting followers and keeping them, you must be doing something right. If you’re getting them and then losing them shortly after, well…” … well put!
Great info JP. Basically, stay true to yourself and your principles, provide value in your niche…and whoever doesn’t like your approach, they’re more than welcome to split.
You can’t be all things to all people and you can’t argue that theory!
Thanks JP…
Best,
Jim Rodante
@Referral_Pro
Great post JP. I’ve learned, recently, to get over “unfollowers.” Once I reviewed those who continued to follow me, I noticed they were the ones who would be more interested in my usual posts, who I interacted with more often, and also who followed me on other social networks.
I also noticed, most of my “unfollowers” were those who followed me, in order to bait me into following them, and recieve a ton of their tweets marketing their products or affiliate products…Ugh!
Suffice it to say, they got the big fat “unfollow” from me in return.
Sincere~
http://sincerehogan.com
Just like Jan, I also had to learn how to not take the unfollows personally (and the unsubscribes).
Staying true to yourself is a message that can’t be reiterated enough. Thank you for a great post!
Jeannette
JP thanks for this it is so timely. I also have a similar post to write from a slightly different bent. Will share.
I installed “Twitter Quitters” and noticed a couple trends.
1) When I tweeted my son would get Dermabond (vs. stitches) for his very first ever ER injury (and I missed my election party) at least 5 peeps unfollowed me. I thought and thought about that. Should I Tweet things like my son’s injury?
But, we use Twitter as humans. The fact I am a single mom, my son got injured, it was a big deal to all of us as his first real injury & ER visit was something I chose to share. Just as many if not more peeps were very supportive and explained to me more about Dermabond. That was helpful.
Since I create programs called “Have Anything” as a result of the Thought Shifting I do, the fact my life is multi-faceted is just part of who I am. So, the people who cannot allow that are not in my Tribe.
2) I also lost several peeps when I tweeted we should vote for who we like vs. by party since they operate that way anyway. This is just my true experience from having fun from election myself–people do not stick strictly to party lines especially once elected. Just my opinion, I have been involved in local politics for years.
Normally I avoid political tweets since it is not a part of what I am here for, but I offered my opinion and I was surprised to notice who apparently disagreed. Again, I espouse thinking for yourself not being told what to think. If anyone thinks every Republican & every Democrat think the same way they are simply deceiving themselves.
Sooner or later, I would advise my clients to decide things for themselves–not just do what people tell them. So, apparently these peeps again are not in my tribe. I can’t take it personally.
Thanks for the post.
Warmly,
Pam
I have unfollowers, but my followers certainly outnumber those who leave. I am who I am and there is no artifice. So, those who stick with me clearly appreciate my voice. And that means more to me then those who decide to follow another voice. This is a great post which puts things in perspective for many. Thanks for creating it.
You know, you can’t make an omelette without cracking a few eggs. By the same token, you can’t have loyal followers if you don’t get rid of the disloyal ones. Great post!
Cheers!
Speaking of followers: http://www.twitter.com/rafaelmarquez
Couldn’t resist
I guess Twitter relationships are just like any other…some people click and some don’t. I see Twitter as a place to view many different conversations….if you see one you like jump in and if you don’t start one. As far as Quitter goes I’m not interested. I think in this case…what I don’t know wont hurt me.
I’ve been thinking about this recently due to a post by @KyleFlaherty (http://www.engageinpr.com/2008/10/31/twitter-qwitter/)
At the end of the day my thought is that if you care so much about who is ‘following’ you then you probably are in a bit of an unhealthy place and need to rethink what you are trying to accomplish in the 1st place.
That said, i had an actual ‘friend’ (person i know and was at my wedding) stop following me on Twitter today … and it definitely made me stop and think for a minute or two.
People leaving you will hurt no matter what, but if you have a clear goal(s) and are focused on it then you’ll get through
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http://twitter.com/franswaa
Susan ~ “I have unfollowers, but my followers certainly outnumber those who leave.”… and that’s what ultimately counts isn’t it?
Rafael ~ “You know, you can’t make an omelette without cracking a few eggs.” Even more true when you’re making an egg-white omelette. Getting rid of the cholesterol.
Frank ~ Amen! If your followers (or unfollowers) make you, you’ve got much bigger (and sadder) problems than some Social Media measurement.
I blogged about this on Sunday myself!
I’m not going to lie – unfollows and people that don’t follow me that I actually know (co-workers, friends, etc.), yeah, that bothers me. I take it personally. Not because I have a business objective, but because of my own philosophy in following people. Simply put, if I’m following you, I’m interested in you. In what you’re doing, in what you have to say, in what you find worthy of sharing with a crowd. Thus, if I unfollow someone, it must mean that they’ve violated one of those tenets. Since that’s my philosophy on following and unfollowing, it’s sometimes hard to understand that other people don’t use Twitter in the way that I do, and don’t subscribe to the same theory.
But posts like yours help me see that caring about who is following me kinda ruins the experience, and the “organic” aspect of it all. Thanks for helping me see that being true is what really matters.
Great post thanks very much for sharing. Form a business perspective I feel you need to engage with the person first before marketing your business. Meaningful engagement allows you to connect with a person building up a level of trust, respect and reciprecation.
If I feel somone is simple trying to spam me and pimp themselves then I unfollow. Your also putting down a marker and are making a statement
The more I use the social media, the less concerned I am with unfollows and unsubscribes. They only matter as marketing information, say a promotion or email bombs. Business, especially network marketing is always about those who WILL, not those who WON’T. The only time it matters is if you are losing potential clients/customers that you could otherwise gain.
It’s not personal if I unfollow either.
Twitter overturns the traditional marketing understanding of it’s all about the product. Now it’s all about the relationship we share.
I follow my followers and enjoy every moment of our interaction. As an artist and writer I am a communicator. Following is maybe better than being followed as it is a way to learn!
Judy Rey Wasserman
On Twitter: http://twitter.com/judyrey