Do women rule on Twitter? (What Men Think)
May 20th, 2008 · Filed Under: Online Persuasion · Podcasts · Social Marketing · Videos
I recently wrote a piece on the New Media Marketing blog for Entrepreneur Magazine, and it caused quite a controversy. In it I raised the question of women having a natural advantage when it comes to the art of influence and online persuasion. The topic generated a lot of comments and stirred up both men and women to join in and share their opinion.
As a matter of fact, the topic was so controversial that the buzz continued on Twitter, and at parties in the “real world”. Including a recent get together with one of my clients living Hawaii.
He started to say, “Women Rule on Twitter” while we were walking on the beach in Kailua to catch the sunset. But then, a couple of Mai Tais later, once again – the controversy took over. In the dark of night he “might” have admitted too much of what he REALLY thinks about women, and how he can’t compete with them on Twitter.
I dunno – but it sure had me laughing! (And laughing - and laughing esp while editing this video.) But I’ll let YOU decide.
Does he speak the truth? Or go too far? Is he sexist? Or simply admitting that women do indeed have a natural advantage for any type of social networking activity on the net?
J.P. Micek chimed in, (on the laughing) and went on to agree that women really DO indeed rule on Twitter. He said it was because they have, (and I quote) “The Whole Package”.
What do you think the whole package is, giving women the advantage on social networking sites?
And is it only women who have the whole package when it comes to winning on Twitter? Or can men develop the skills necessary to win in the new media marketplace?
Make your opinion count with a comment below.
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Deborah Micek is a co-founder of the international business coaching company RPM Success Group ® Inc. She and her partner John Paul are authors of the hit book Secrets Of Online Persuasion and creators of the BLOG i360™ New Media Marketing system. |
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30 Responses to “Do women rule on Twitter? (What Men Think)”
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May 20th, 2008 at 9:26 am
Women do rule twitter and we “may” gab (is that a word?) more than men - I guess that’s what makes us more engaging and approachable. I’m glad I found you guys on Twitter last night btw.
….off to do some “gabbing”!
May 20th, 2008 at 10:25 am
Hey Debi,
that had me laughing out loud for real! I do agree women like talking and chattin’ it up. I mean, if it were not for us, there would be nothing in this world worth a damn!
Yes “women rule!” you should of stopped the film there!
We can get away with a lot more, able to wiz our way into things and have that “power” over men when it comes to almost anything. Yes, we rule twitter. well actually, YOU, rule twitter. I cant even keep up with you!
Aloha,
Toki
May 20th, 2008 at 10:57 am
@Coachdeb…
Oh my… How many Mai Tai’s were there?
Now, how to comment and not get
a) thrown out of the man club or
b) flamed for being sexist.
Let me say this. A friend of mine has said she believes that women make better networkers because they are more concerned with relationships and men are more concerned with a deal.
Eh.. Maybe so, or maybe not.
I do think that many more women have a better hold on how to communicate on a personal level than many men, and that translates to new media.
If you think that twitter is about communication in short bursts, then it would make sense that better communicators (male or female) would be more successful. Just my thought, but I will be glad to argue this over a Mai Tai.
May 20th, 2008 at 11:11 am
Women rule on Twitter because we know how to be social and interact. We do more intuitively know how to “multi task” and can handle the various simultaneous conversations that go on.
Men can learn how to do this, but they have to WANT TO. Many Men are trying and, with our excellent tutelage and examples, will succeed.
Great Video @CoachDeb!
@charlyjl
May 20th, 2008 at 12:35 pm
Hey,
Face it - Women Rule!
We just haven’t figured that out yet!
Bob
May 20th, 2008 at 12:37 pm
Picking myself off the floor… did I hear @JPMicek correctly???
“Women Rule” hold on that man @CoachDeb
This is hysterical. I do notice women talk more on twitter but the tone of conversation is very different from men. Men seem to be more business oriented in their conversations. They also link to more analytical, stats and controversial related info in tweets.
Women seem more diverse in their tweets. We don’t stop at business…
That’s my observation
But then one wonders how @JPMicek out rank @CoachDeb on twitterlocal.net as a top tweeter for Hawaii
Ann Rusnak
“The Time Diva”
May 20th, 2008 at 1:05 pm
Ruh-roh, Traderjoe! How many Mai Tais were involved in the making of this video? haha I like how Traderjoe was “gabbing” about women sounding like geese talking over each other - and at that very moment he and JP were talking over each other. Hmmmmmm, very interesting!
Women rule on Twitter for one reason and one reason only. When women talk, men listen. It’s part of their genetic makeup. heh heh Women, on the other hand know everything already - so there’s no need for the “listen” gene. *big grin*
May 20th, 2008 at 1:06 pm
Women Do Rule on Twitter mostly because the women on Twitter are wicked smart and cutting edge. Women you meet on Twitter are very forward thinking!
Dr. Wright
The Wright Place TV Show
http://www.wrightplacetv.com
May 20th, 2008 at 1:20 pm
Women (of course!) Rule at Everything!
And I have to say that “my husband” sounds just like you client even when he hasn’t had too many. He has been my inspiration for helping women everywhere–because he is just so wrong!
Sheri McConnell
http://www.sherimcconnell.com
May 20th, 2008 at 1:21 pm
I loved the video! Women rule and ROCK Twitter and YES, we do have the whole package. Brains, Boobs and Butt (well some more than others).
Even though @TraderJoe had his fun, he is an awesome guy. 140 characters is just perfect to make our point. And let’s all repeat, “Women Rule Twitter!”
May 20th, 2008 at 1:27 pm
Again with the gender non-issue? You won long ago.
If there were anything to Joe’s comment, women would be at a distinct disadvantage when forced to 140 characters.
Women are better at verbal stuff. This was true before Twitter, and still true now.
And packaged nicely too.
May 20th, 2008 at 1:50 pm
Deb, you certainly demonstrate that you have the edge on Twitter….do you have a chance to do anything else?!?
Rock on!
Suzanne Holman
Your Million Dollar Life - it’s NOT just about the money!
May 20th, 2008 at 1:52 pm
Women rule - period.
But seriously, women have an advantage on twitter as we love a chat. This gives us a chance to do so without wasting too much time. Women also tend to build relationships/friendships more easily - men often ‘do’ (drink beer, play sport, etc) with their friends, whereas women tend to talk and share. They are my thoughts, anyway.
May 20th, 2008 at 1:56 pm
@coachdeb,
Hmmmm, I have flash memory of nights like that video.
Do women rule on Twitter? Good question. I do believe
they have a distinct advantage.
Other women might feel more safe and comfortable connecting with other women. Women have the ability to be flirtatious and use that attribute to attract male followers.
Women do seem to be more apt to respond to a reply than men do.
Who rules on Twitter. I think it depends on the niche and the persona. Is ruling determined by the quality of quantity of Tweets?
Everything is relative. I’m Darwin and that’s my theory.
@darwindennis
May 20th, 2008 at 2:21 pm
Ann - yes I did say “Women Rule”. It’s cause they have the “Total Package” (including what Lisa Weinberger said above
)
Kalei - yes true, Joe and I were talking over each other, and we didn’t understand each other either. Only women and geese can do that. lol
May 20th, 2008 at 2:46 pm
Nice vid Coach.
Screenwriters use Tannen Theory:
Males = Report Talk /status, skill
Females = Rapport Talk / connecting, bonding…all good.
May 20th, 2008 at 5:34 pm
It’s all been said above.
Now tell me, @CoachDeb, if your definition of “The Whole Package” coincides with @JPMicek’s version. My inquiring mind really wants to know the details!
Carol (@caroldc), who tweets currently probably 95% non-biz but wants to tap into her inner man and change that up a bit (maybe 50/50ish eventually?)
May 20th, 2008 at 5:55 pm
Thanks @Ines & @TokiTover 4 your kudos & kind words.
But I do think you’re onto something!
Way to influence me to love you even more :))
I think this was one of THE funniest videos I’ve
ever edited for Tribal Seduction blog - and I loved
reading all your comments about it! too funny!
It just goes to show - we CAN put the FUN back
into “business” - b/c afterall…
“Business is ALWAYS Personal”
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Note 4 Dr. Wright -
I sooooo agree w/ you re: finding so many wonderful,
forward-thinking, successful Women on Twitter!
I’ve had a blast getting to know each and every one
that follows me over the past few months.
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I almost feel SMARTER as a result - b/c now I get to
tap into sooo many BRILLIANT minds - both men AND women
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PS: Darwin - TX 4 sharing your “theory” & glad to
see that it is just that - a “theory” yet to be
proven
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Ok - off to go GAB some more on TWitter!
May 20th, 2008 at 6:00 pm
Aloha Suzanne Holman,
Soooo great to see you again - here on TWitter.
I remember back in the olden dayz of social networking
how painful all those emails coming in on online networking
days. Oh how I love the tool that is called Twitter!
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To answer your Q re:
“Do you have a chance to do anything else?!?
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A: What else is there to do if you’re not Tweeting about it?!
THat’s what I love about Twitter. No matter what I’m doing,
I always have time to send a 140 char tweet about what I’m up to.
Playing tennis? = TWeet about it!
Standing in line frustrated b/c the person can’t make up their mind? = Tweet feverishly about it
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I tweet in between coaching calls, projects to break up routine tasks, and in between exercising, b/c everything is always more fun when done WITH someone - and 2,000 people is WAY more fun!
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The last post revealed I do have #TWS (Twitter Withdrawl Syndrome) when I’m not able to tweet from my iPhone… I feel so… disconnected from the world when my battery runs out of juice. But I’m getting help for it.
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Ok - I’ve been here too long now - gotta go gab & tweet about it!
May 20th, 2008 at 6:47 pm
Hmmm, I’m confused…
WHAT???
What’s this “whole package” JP was talking about anyway??? I think he just had too many Mai Tais and thought you said “titter”, and didn’t know you were talking about Twitter!
The last question really had me boggled!!!
The “new media marketplace”???? I thought we were talking about Twitter! Oh, and JP thought you were talking about something completely different! So now we have three topics of discussion…
1) Twitter (I think)
2) Titter …er, um, well JP thought so anyway
3) New Media Marketplace
Now, what was the question again?
May 20th, 2008 at 6:58 pm
All i can say is ‘thank god i’m Gay !”
May 21st, 2008 at 10:15 am
Mark, Mark, Mark,
how DID I know your warped brain would “go there?”
LOL - TX 4 da laughs brah! (That’s Hawaiian for “bro”)
You always guarantee comedy w/ all your Tweets! UR a PRO!
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JARED - nope - we’re not letting you get off that easily!
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You can be grateful to God all you want. But NOW
you’ve got to give us your perspective on how you feel
you do on Twitter. (That’ll help us determine how your
brain thinks. :=P
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Do you like TWitter?
Do you find it easy to strike up a conversation?
Are you turned off by the internet marketers
who come in and just talk about their boring
services & products yet never really interact
or follow their Tribe?
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Tell us what you think!
May 22nd, 2008 at 1:45 pm
alrighty
no not getting turned off by internet marketers, it gives me something to study and see what others are doing both good and bad, even signin up to some of their sites to see how they go about things, some good some bad, always something to learn, although i do ignore alot of their tweets,find them a tad boring and skimming over them. Love responding to general chit chat and making friends all over the world, feels like a real family, kinda weird but cool. Women rulin on twitter ??? its a big generalisation, i believe that people do generally stick to the stereotypes assigned to them by society, it makes them comfortable and feel secure. i agree with the following by Marie….
“For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships…. For most men, talk is primarily a means to preserve independence and negotiate and maintain status in a hierarchical social order. This is done by exhibiting knowledge and skill…
I think of twitter as a “Woman”. She’s fickle, continually changing, and totally transparent. Breaks down easily, but comes back to fight another day, embraces everyone, makes absolutely no sense at times and is a doorway to creativity.
The whole package ??? - maybe i’d need a few mai tai’s myself to answer that one
May 22nd, 2008 at 2:02 pm
JUST HAD ANOTHER THOUGHT
twitter could be like a man - brilliant, full of knowledge, power and focused progress, sexy, unstable, self centered and package orientated.
does the word Twitter originate from “Twit” & “Her”?
May 22nd, 2008 at 6:57 pm
JAred,
LOL
“Twit” & “Her”
i luv it!!!
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ooh - also a GREAT def of
Twitter BEing a Woman!
wow - that is TOO good
I think I’ll add that to the
http://TwitterHandbook.com
re: What IS Twitter
& perhaps change it to
WHO Is Twitter
August 10th, 2008 at 12:38 pm
Great video Deb - and yes, women rule on twitter. Women are natural “connectors” and communicators. I’m learning from you, @barefoot_exec and @marismith. All I can hope to do is name drop a bit and ride the wave that “you people” stir up ;-). Fantastic meeting you online!
Perry
aka @askmrvideo
August 15th, 2008 at 2:25 pm
When I first started doing the social networking thing a year ago I got really excited because I recognized right away that the web now worked more like the way women are naturally! I knew intuitively that it was a good sign for women to become more successful online. In a year, I’ve seen things change tremedously!
Most women DO like to talk, seek out ways to communicate with others with whom they may have things in common, like-minded people, people they can learn from, people they can get to know as human beings, see how others live, what they’re lives are like, what they believe in, what their passions are, what they’re doing that’s working and not working, who is willing to help them, teach them, connect them, share with them.
It’s not just about business, possible business prospects, joint venture partners, buyers or even possible romantic partners. It’s so much more than that!
I first wondered, like Carol did, what the “whole package” meant to JP and I certainly can’t put words in his mouth, but for me the “whole package” means women are more like a hologram in that they are willing to open up and let people see them as multi-faceted beings rather than one particular role society has dictated they portray as in the past.
The beauty of that is that “enlightened men”, as I call them in my GutZy Women community, have given themselves permission to open up as well… if those communities make it safe for them to do so.
The men who can put up with us and actually enjoy our idiosyncrasies (like all talking at once) are welcomed and encouraged to share their thoughts, their personal lives, as well as their businesses, and we feel good about recommending them to the women we know.
So the way I see it, “enlightened men” have a distinct advantage over other men (as well as singular focused women ie: business only) going forward.
Do you see? I see!
aka @gutzywoman
August 16th, 2008 at 3:08 pm
Women have the whole package because we wear our emotions on our sleeve… we are expressive creatures who are adept at communicating. We can communicate well on everything from the latest in fall fashion to football if we want to. Wanting is a big element… WOMEN ROCK! Aloha, Kelly follow me at HawaiisRealtor on twitter.com
August 19th, 2008 at 8:28 pm
Deb! This is great. It reveals how men need to learn to follow their heart. That’s why women rule. They know how to see everything. my wife & I had this debate tonight. She’s great @ planing because she C’s all the contingencies I neglect because I jump right in. Now that I have kids there is much I fail to take into consideration. I am grateful that she reminds me of things I didn’t even think about. Of course my ego may feel a bit bruised but I get over it & C her wisdom. So yes women are better & say what needs 2B said that men R 2 stubborn Or prideful 2 say! That means they are better twitters. As far as the whole package. It’s what’s inside that counts. Again great video.
August 19th, 2008 at 11:55 pm
Best video! Deb’s laughing cracked me up! I was laughing with her!
Now the best part is… that the men had NO idea that Deb and the rest of us were laughing at them! See it’s because women RULE!
Package? Brain, Brawn, Boobs, Butt, Bravado AND Chattability!
Wooo Yah!
Tweet me @allaboutenergy … I gab! sometimes…